The Purse Curse

Why is it that husbands get away with just a wallet and keys, while us ladies have to carry around purses filled with all the ‘necessities’? 

Before children, I still carried a lot; but now my purse qualifies as luggage.  I’m starting to re-think this whole purse thing… 

Here’s what’s in my purse right now… seriously!

• My 24 oz Water Bottle – In my favorite flip lid Nalgene Bottle
• My son’s 12 oz Water Bottle – In a perfect kid sized Nalgene Bottle
• Wallet with: ID, Credit Cards, Checkbook, Photos, Receipts and at least 100 stupid membership cards (just one more punch and I’ll get a free something).  Oddly enough, there is no actual money in my wallet – except for a few loose coins.
• Keys
• Cell Phone, Case and Headset
• Sunglasses, Case and Microfiber Cloth
• 2 Bottles of Hand Sanitizer: One in 2 oz pump and another small keychained size.
• Wipes
• Pocket Sized Bible – Love this one from Amazon.
• Digital Camera (a Sony Cyber-Shot if anyone cares)
• Gerber Multi-Tool – With a built in screwdrivers, I use this all the time!
• Swiss Army Knife – mostly for the cool tweezers!
• Pack of Gum
• Aspirin
• Mini Hairbrush
• 2 Band-Aids
• Tissues
• 3 Toothpicks in plastic
• Matches
• Eyeglass Repair Kit
• Rubberbands – Both the hair and standard ones.
• Disposable Rubber Glove – you have no idea how many times I’ve had to use one of these (like the time my son peed all over the floor in Macy’s and I had to mop it up – Yuck!)
• Book of Stamps
• Travel Pack of 5 Toilet Seat Covers – compliments of my mother-in-law (she really knows me!)
• Chapstick
• Hand Lotion
• 16 crayons – accumulated from restaurants (which I am removing from my purse right now!).
• 2 Sunday School projects from my son
• Pen
• Note Pad
• Costco Coupon Book
• Today’s Mail
• and finally… a tampon! (even though I haven’t had a period in almost 10 years – see ‘our adoption story’ for more info on this)

I can’t even imagine if I had another baby or if I wore make-up!  I’d have to upgrade to a full time pack-mule!!  And I have a confession:  Even though my son has outgrown his stroller, I often take it with me when I go shopping just to hold my purse!

I’m normally such a neat freak – I can’t imagine why I let my purse get like this… Perhaps there’s a 12-step program for this.  I’d like to what you’ve got in your purse and perhaps you have a tip on how you’ve tamed the ‘purse curse’.

Help Me!

~ Erika

You'd Be Proud of Us Jo-Jo!

The Super Nanny would be sooooo proud!  My husband and I sat down one night and hammered out a list of General House Rules we felt best suited our faith, personal convictions, as well as our family. 

One of the criteria for our list was that we wanted them to be Biblically accurate, realistic and something were willing to hold ourselves accountable to as well (Titus 2:7-8).  If we don’t model this for our children, then how can we possibly expect them to follow suit? 

I will admit, I’ve broken more than a few of the rules myself… like ‘Interupting’ (I’m the Queen of Interrupting and it’s a nasty habit I hope doesn’t get passed on).  I’ve also been known to eat breakfast standing up while checking my email AND talking on my cell phone at the same time!  And since I’m being honest here… I do grumble and complain far more than I’d care to admit.

So without further ado…here they are!  Feel free to copy and use them for your family – most of ours are just copied right out of the Bible anyway. 

GENERAL HOUSE RULES

JOY! = Jesus First, Others Second, Yourself Last

Order of Authority = Jesus & the Bible > Daddy > Mommy > Respected Elders > The Law (Ephesians 6:1-4 & Colossians 3:18-21)

• Love & Forgive Each Other (Colossians 3:13)
• Treat Everyone with Gentleness & Kindness (Galatians 5:22-23)
• No Interrupting – Use Interrupt Rule (Child and/or adult place hand gently on person’s arm they’d like to say something to – waiting for the person to signal their turn to speak.  This is a ‘Baby Wise/Growing Kids God’s Way’  idea that we love!)
• No Back Talking, Sassing or Disrespectful Tones – Respond Respectfully
• No Bad / Naughty Words (Ephesians 4:29 & Ephesians 5:4)
• No Lying, Cheating, Stealing (See all 10 Commandments – Exodus 20)
• No Hitting, Pinching, Biting or Hurtful Physical Contact (Matthew 5:38-45 & Luke 6:27-31)
• Even if You’re Just Playing, If Someone Asks You To Stop – Stop!
• No Whining, Grumbling or Complaining (Philippians 2:14-15)
• No Yelling, Screaming or Angry Loud Talking (Colossians 3:8 & Proverbs 14:29)
• No Ball Throwing or Rough Play Inside House
• All Food is to be Eaten at the Kitchen Table or Sitting Down
• No Toys, Computers, Phones, Games, Etc… While Eating as a Family (Deuteronomy 11:19)
• Always Clean-Up After Yourself and Return Things Where They Belong, In as Good or Better Condition than You Found It (Matthew 7:12)

I’m sure we’ve forgotten a couple of important rules… What kind of house rules to you use?  Where do you post them (ours is on the fridge)?  I’d love to hear your wisdom on this.

~ Erika

Mom's Need Sleep Too!

The first hurdle I encountered after becoming a new mom, was the lack of sleep.  Nothing can make a perfectly sane mother lose her mind faster than sleep deprivation.  

When news of our son’s birth arrived (see ’Our Adoption Story’), the sweet desire of motherhood that I so often dreamed about was finally coming true.  My head was filled with all kinds of notions of how I could be the perfect mother – sacrificing sleep to rock my precious little gift all night long as I lovingly gazed into his angelic little face… all the while maintaining a spotless house; cooking three meals a day; and helping my husband run our business.

SCREEECH!!…. Fast forward to four weeks after his birth – the ‘honeymoon’ phase was over and although I rocked, sang, fed, patted, burped, and tried everything I *thought* I knew, my little bundle of joy refused to sleep for more than 30 minutes at a time.  Despite my exhaustion, he followed the same pattern during the day – plus with work to be done, napping for me was out of the question!  

A normally happy-go-lucky person, I quickly became snappy and weepy – barely able to remember what it was like to sleep or function as before.  Surely this wasn’t what other mother’s encountered?  I was hoping the pediatrician would vaidate my valiant efforts – but instead, he merely snickered at my ignorance and stated that I was just ‘paying my dues.’  I left feeling defeated and hopeless for the first time since bringing our son home.  I pleaded with the Lord to give me wisdom – and perhaps a little sleep too!  I remember telling my own mother ‘If I could just get 2 hours of sleep, I would be ok!’  

As He always does, the Lord heard my cries (and whining) and sent a woman directly into my path who had two 8-week old TWINS sleeping like perfect little logs in the store.  With one eye twitching, I began to stare at her and before I could stop myself, I blurted out  ‘Good Lord, how are you doing it?!’   She laughed understandingly and said “I was just like you two weeks ago, when somebody gave me a copy of a book called ‘Baby Wise’.”  She mentioned being skeptical at first, but decided to apply the common sense advice and voila’ the twins were sleeping through the night within one week!   I thanked her for the advice, and we parted ways – also leaving behind the idea that the answers to my motherhood trials could possibly be found in a single book.

Two weeks past, and nothing changed.  Although I was still nutty at this point, deep in my spirit I couldn’t shake the small, still voice prompting me to go out and buy the book.  Figuring that I had nothing else to lose, I dragged my husband and son to the bookstore and begrudgingly spent $10 on a book I just knew would be another dead end.  

Being an avid reader, I was able to skim through the main ideas of the book fairly quickly.  My spirit quickened within me as I continued to read – and for the first time I felt hope that raising children would NOT have to be this difficult (at least not all of the time).   The author quickly established his points that common sense, paired with order and a set schedule are the keys to a healthy parent-child relationship. 

Although I was not convinced my son would sleep through the night anytime soon, I set-out to apply the scheduling techniques as suggested – and faithfully stuck to it all day.  That night, I laid down and drifted off to sleep fully expecting to be woken up at any moment…. but that moment never came – my son had slept through the night!!!!   I actually woke up before him, and panicked a little before reaching over to make sure he was still breathing – but he was just fine, and was still sound asleep!  In my excitement and with renewed hope and energy, I hopped out of bed praising the Lord!  I didn’t even have to wait a week, because it worked the very first night I tried it!! 

On Becoming Baby Wise

I know what you’re thinking – that this is too good to be true – but let me testify that it’s not!  My son continued to sleep through the night and is now 4 years old - we have never once had to battle over naptime or bedtime.  In fact just the opposite – he will often put himself down for a nap and he reminds me that it’s almost bedtime.   We’ve even kept up with the scheduling techniques, and to this day, my son is a very orderly little boy.  Sure, we still have (a lot) of moments that leave my eyes twitching and call for sacrificing my beauty sleep – but after all, that’s what motherhood is really all about… well, that and a lot of unconditional love!

There are many fantastic books out there about raising children (first and foremost, the Bible), but there are none that I’ve read that so effectively tackle the subject of getting your baby to sleep through the night.  The book should really be re-named ‘How mom’s can get their sleep back’  or as my husband suggests ‘How father’s can get their wives back in bed!’

I know that reading this book has had a far more important and lasting impact on our family then just sleeping through the night.  I’ve oftentimes pleaded with exhausted mothers to read the book… The ones that do and apply the basic principals always return to say ‘thank you’ and continue to rave about how it has changed their life and the life of their children forever!

~ Erika

P.S.  The author (Gary Ezzo) of Baby Wise (and the other ‘Wise’ books) also has a complete Christian parenting line called ‘Growing Kids God’s Way’ - which is excellent.  Many churches offer his classes and it has experienced much success over the past 20 years.   I still like the Baby Wise book for new moms, because the most important tips are condensed for easy reading without having to attend classes. 

P.S. (again)  Mother’s come wired with a God-given intuition and the author of the book repeatedly reminds us to put that common sense into practice.  In no way are his ideas unrealistic – but it does require CONSISTANCY, just like anything you want done right in this world.  What better cause do mothers have then to dedicate our time and energy to the raising of our future generation?    I have occasionally heard feedback from Mom’s who feel the book is too ‘legalistic’ and/or heard from a friend that it’s ‘very difficult to do’.  Nothing could be further from the truth.