Some of you are probably thinking right about now: “Oh, she’s one of THOSE moms who doesn’t let her kids celebrate Halloween… Her poor kids are missing out on all the fun!”
But before you pass judgement, please read this post and then decide for yourself – I think you’d be surprised at how many of you would really enjoy this as an alternative to the typical Halloween traditions.
Each year, our Halloween Alternative goes something like this:
- We make a huge pot of spaghetti sauce and lots of long noodles (gluten free of course!).
- We make a giant bowl of salad.
- We make a selection of our favorite special treats.
- We set the picnic table outside by first wrapping it in several layers of Plastic Wrap (or a disposable table cloth)…. NO plates, forks or napkins allowed!
- We get dressed in our grubbiest clothes.
- Add a wig and some crazy accessories.
- We have the kids sit down and serve the food right in the middle of the table!
- We eat with our hands and make a mess on purpose! Food fights are encouraged, but not mandatory – and since we’re outside, no worries about the mess!
- Clean each other off with Hoses & Water Balloons… although I’d probably prefer to do this in a warm shower if I lived in the cold!
- Clean-up the table – Which pretty much means we cut the table wrap off and throw it away.
- Get our PJ’s on.
- Get our sleeping bags set-up in the living room.
- Pick out a family friendly movie or Radio Drama.
- Turn off all the lights and watch our movie while eating our special food treats.
- Camp-Out in the living room as a family… which means the kids are up way past their bed time!
- Wake-up the next morning still giggling about the night before… but without the tummy aches, cavities or candy hangover! =)
‘What the heck is going on here? I already eat everything with my hands!’
Reason #1: My kids are afraid of Halloween… and to be quite honest, I don’t like it either. I’m not talking about the getting dressed up in fun costumes part (which my kids & I already do on a regular basis), but it’s the entire evil spirit behind the holiday. Have you seen the Halloween isle at your local superstore? It’s definitely not filled with family friendly looking costumes – Instead, it’s dominated by evil characters and ghoulish accessories we try to avoid in real life! Not to mention the scary decorations everywhere (spiders, webs, monsters, witches, bloody knives, eyeballs & more creepy stuff)!
I walked into Kmart the other day and a life sized, animatronic Freddy Krueger greeted me at the door with his bloody knife hand, creepy eyes, and a mouth that moved when he said “Why are you screaming, I haven’t even cut you yet?” My 7 year old son was petrified, and we promptly walked right out of the store. I don’t need any more scary things to keep my kids awake at night… I can barely handle all the requests for water and trips to the bathroom!
There are REAL people and REAL children who face horrors like this everyday – but somehow it’s ok to glorify these unspeakable horrors at Halloween? No thanks!
Reason #2: My kids can’t eat any of the rubbish that’s handed out… nor would I want them to! No, I’m not afraid my child is going to find a razor in an apple or eat candy laced with poison – although technically, the candy is already filled with toxic chemicals and dangerous ingredients! But for goodness sake, how did we digress as a society where acquiring mass amounts of candy is equal to having a fun time? Kids are thrilled when you spend time with them, and their special memories are much more likely to be linked to the special event, then the candy.
We want our special events to have a healthy balance of fun & special food treats that won’t make them sick. I’m so grateful that my kids are easily amused, and that it doesn’t take much for them to think they’ve hit the jackpot… one slice of Real Watermelon Cake and my 7 Year old exclaims “This is the best dessert EVER Mommy!”
Reason #3: Halloween has become an increasingly ‘Adult’ holiday. I live in Hawaii and every year on Halloween they close down the famous ‘Front Street’ on the island of Maui, just to accomodate the tens of thousands of adults who fly in especially to participate in what’s now known as the ‘Mardi Gras of the Pacific.’ The out-of-control mayhem from just this one night has resulted in all the shops (except for a few bars) to shut down early in order to protect their property.
The street is turned into a virtual pornographic display of inappropriate costumes (if they wear any at all); with public displays of sexual acts, drunkenness, drugs, violence, abuse, profanity, property damage, littering, and other lewd behavior. The police are equipped like SWAT teams that line the street just to protect the people from their own foolishness! And this is just on a little island in the middle of nowhere – imagine the rest of the nation!
My beliefs encourage me to separate myself from such foolishness and live a life that is pleasing to God. And contrary to what others would say, my beliefs don’t restrict me from having fun! Call me crazy, but my definition of having fun is waking up and remembering everything in the morning… and to know that my kids will share those memories with me for a lifetime!
I know most of you would say, “I never would participate or take my kids to something like that!” I know… and I’m not anti-Halloween all-together or interested in judging your choices – I’m just sharing our family’s alternative and to give you another option if you need one. =)
Whatever you decide to do this Halloween, have fun, be safe & try not to scare the kids – you may lose sleep over it! =)
Jan
oh how i wish we lived in the same city! we could have a two family party and twice the excitement! it’s rare for me to read something and think, “wow, she gets me! there’s someone else out there who get it!” loving the picture!
Erika
Hi Jan!
I wished you lived near me too! I can always use more friends & moms who think alike and don’t think all my ‘hair-brained’ ideas are weird! =)
I’m glad we found each other online! God Bless!
~ Erika
Jan
thanks for responding to all of my comments. following your blog now and look forward to more spaghetti fight pictures! :)
Ray Hernandez
Erika, I just started following your recipes on You Tube and God am I bless that I found your website. Our church was doing something similar for Halloween, we would create different post from different Bible character or story and give candies to the kids. But, for the last two years I have stop participating because it is still Halloween. Also, as I read your comments it made think that by spending all the money on candies we are supporting the companies and people who don’t share our faith.
May God continue to bless you and your family in all that you do.
Ray
Erika
Hi Ray!
Thanks for your comment… Since writing this post, our annual Halloween alternative has become wildly popular with our neighbors and friends! Next year, we may have to rent tables just to accommodate everyone. Maybe it will catch on and we can replace Halloween altogether! LOL! =)
God Bless!
~ Erika
Robbye Edwards
I love this!! It makes me sad that even my church friends don’t get me on Halloween. My kids are big now and the battle over Halloween has intensified. I’m going to try this with a group of teens in October!! I bet they love it:))
Erika
Hi Robbye!
We have the neighbor kids literally begging to join us… Not surprisingly, they don’t even care that they’re ‘missing out’ on all the other festivities – we have such a great time & I know you guys will too! =)
God Bless!
~ Erik
Pha
Hi Erika:) I’m so glad I ran across your page! I love how real you are :) plus I love all your recipes especially the kale chips
And all your reasons are right on:)
my kids are terrified when they see people in scary costumes too
plus I wouldn’t want them to eat all those chemicals GMO candies no no
Janet Spink
Erika, I just come across your page looking to make homemade butter with fresh cow milk. What a joy and unexpected surprise to find! It can be clearly seen by anyone that you are a real, loving and caring mother/wife who deserves the best blessings! March on and don’t change a thing b/c your personality comes across even over the computer! Blessing in Christ. Janet